If not, let's start with a basic overview of what BDSM is. BDSM is an acronym, it stands for:

B: Bondage [usually Shibari- aka Japanese rope bondage] Shibari was rope bondage created for prisoners of war in Japan.

Origin of Shibari

D: D/s "relationships" [D/s= Domination/submission]

Origins of Domination and submission

S: ​ ​Sadism [experiencing pleasure, especially sexually from inflicting pain and/or humiliation on others]

Origins of Sadism

M: Masochism[experiencing pleasure, especially sexually from one's own pain and/or humiliation]

Origin of Masochism

It is healthy to feel shocked by what you just read. You may have even more questions "What? Why? When did this start? Who does this? How does this happen in our world?" or any variant of "Who? What? When? Where? How?".

Here I will answer these questions with my experience of 13 years of being a Professional and Lifestyle Dom and having experienced the submissive side of this as well.

To answer the "who" regarding BDSM, we will start with the origins of BDSM which includes two of the most prominent influences of the creation of BDSM itself.

Origins of BDSM

On this page we have already begun to answer the "What?" of BDSM. Delving deeper into tactics that are used to groom people into the abuse of BDSM will be coming soon.

Gaslighting and grooming are the foundations of what keeps BDSM running.